Will I find love again

 How to finding love in isolation

What can and cannot be said to the gentleman, how not to run into a admirer and recognize  Even if you are a little over 30, you have an unsuccessful marriage behind you, and two children have tripled a pillow fight on the couch, there is still hope to find your prince. 

The self-isolation procedure has made significant adjustments to our lives - now you won’t go to a coffee shop to sit with a book, and in the evening to shoot at a restaurant with your eyes around in search of handsome bachelors. Now you have to arrange your personal life remotely by following these steps.

Step 1: Prioritize yourself.

Oddly enough, but the search for the promise must begin with yourself. First decide: what do you want in life? Leave the children to the nanny and build a career? Leave the office and go headlong into the family, give birth to three more, and cook delicious treats from morning tonight? Travel all year round, moving with your family from one paradise to another? Decided? Now think: what is stopping you from making your dream come true and what kind of man should be there to make it a reality.

Many women, including single mothers, are waiting for a prince to appear in their lives and solve all their problems. This is fundamentally wrong - a man has his problems, why does he need yours? - so first, understand yourself, prioritize, focus on the important, then start searching.

Self-isolation has significantly expanded the possibilities for dating: everything is remote, which means online - communicate for health, not only with gentlemen from your city but throughout Russia and even with foreigners.

Seriously assess your capabilities in advance: education, knowledge of the language, culture, etiquette, try to understand what is important and valuable you can give a man. Think about which country you are ready to move to, if everything turns out perfectly.

And be prepared for the difference in mentality and fill out your profile meaningfully, reflect your strengths in it, choose a photo where you turned out well, but still look like yourself in everyday life.

Look for a real person, not a prince: agree, most likely, your betrothed is not a general, not business tycoon or a superman.

Carefully study the photo of the man you like in the profile, check it with the help of search engines for originality. During communication, ask to send you photos from the category “where are you now”, be sure to use video communication. Photos taken in the bathroom, cropped photos, refusal to communicate via video calls, and constantly busy weekends are sure signs that your hero is not free or impersonating someone else.

If you want to make sure that a man is honest with you, register a couple more profiles on the same site, let them be better than yours. Look at the page to your potential boyfriend, but do not take the first step. 

If he writes to you first, begins to scatter in compliments, then probably you are the first not so interested in him that he stopped searching for a lady of the heart. Such an acquaintance should be stopped.

Step 2: Must be active on social media platform.

During the period of self-isolation, the number of clients at marriage agencies increased : Today, the market for marriage services offers many ways to narrow down the search for “the one”: numerology will help you find a suitable gentleman by date of birth, to weed out perverts, pathological liars and men prone to violence, tarot cards - to clarify the future a little, and the exotic program  to determine the signs of "deterioration" by the sign of the zodiac and features of appearance - the shape of the ears, hair color, birthmarks.

“As a specialist in this matter, I can say that a bald man, whose zodiac sign is a lion, is a very bad person,”  Each sign has its characteristics, to figure out what's what, you need to contact specialists.

Matchmaker's advice, or "do's and don'ts"

You can’t look for a men on a dating site - this is a cradle of scammers and people who are not in the mood for a serious relationship - there are 80% of them. You can use social networks for these purposes: go to google, type in the search engine in the “active search”, set the gender, age and carefully study the pages of men you like: photos, what groups he belongs to, what music he listens to, look for those with whom you have similar tastes.

Don't write first. Put likes - that's enough. It is better to choose a few “objects” for yourself from among those who are friends with your friends. So the man will see that you have mutual friends, he will be interested. If he likes you, he will write. If communication starts, you can ask this mutual friend whether it is worth spending time on your “object”.

Don't post your entire life story at once. The list of taboo topics includes former relationships, financial difficulties, and loans. It will be possible to talk about all this after sex, or better after several similar dates “with continuation”. And before that, talk about hobbies, look for common topics for conversation.

You can’t show hyper-concern for children, otherwise, the man will decide that he will always be in second and further place and just run away. We can say that they are smart, talented, and most importantly, independent. Children, of course, also need to be mentally prepared for the fact that the mother has the right to privacy.

Do not let a man live with you shortly after meeting you - you can run into admirer , which will be very difficult to get rid of. You can agree to visit him yourself (having warned, say, a close friend about where you will be),  and see if he is neat in everyday life, whether his hands are growing from the right place, and the main thing is whether she is alone: ??women's slippers and a bathrobe, of course, can belong to her mother, but the likelihood that the wife is in the country and the man is just looking for adventure is very high in this case.

Step 3: Trust your sixth sense power.

It is possible and necessary to communicate and arrange personal life during the period of self-isolation, one of psychologist said that the normal men who need love and communication are also now in self-isolation, they are also looking for love, and many do not care if a woman has children, whether she was married, because the main thing is to find “your” person.

But here a significant problem appears: at a personal meeting, a woman can understand whether a man is suitable for her, almost immediately smells, intonations, touches come to the rescue. 

Now, this is more difficult communication has moved to instant messengers. Video calls allow you to somehow evaluate the appearance, but the shades of voice and everything else remains what is called "behind the scenes", so you can be deceived in your best expectations.

Yes, dating in self-isolation is difficult now, but the Internet allows you to watch a movie together remotely and “go to the theater” - everything is available, you just have to want to. Or, on the contrary, you can remember the old secrets of seduction: letters written by hand on scented paper, the exchange of your favorite books by mail with notes in the margins - how did our ancestors communicate before information technology? The main thing here is not to overdo it and not to frighten off the boyfriend with your extraordinary approach.

Best advice for the people that How to recognize a liar -When you are communicating on the Internet, you can easily "run into" a scammer or gigolo. And they know how to turn women's craving for romance to their advantage: beautiful words, endless compliments, tearful stories. In order not to fall into the trap, it is better to use trusted sites and groups on the Internet, plus be careful not to reveal too much about yourself.

In personal communication, a liar can be given out by inconsistency in verbal and non-verbal signals: the body language of such people often contradicts body language. On the Internet, you need to pay attention to logical inconsistencies, contradictions in stories about yourself. Trust your intuition: if she says "something is wrong with him", then it probably is.

You should also be alerted by violent declarations of love on a 1-2 date, promises that a person is unable to fulfill, requests to borrow some money, and offers to move in as soon as possible.